“People change and forget to tell each other.” – Lillian Hellman
What can you do if your spouse or partner is not willing to come with you to a counselor?
The person you loved, the one you were sure you’d be with forever…… suddenly seems so different – and so impossible to be with! Change has happened and no one has told you!
Maybe the most challenging part of it is that your partner in this relationship can’t even see the change – or doesn’t want to discuss the obvious (to you!) differences and conflict that so frustrate you these days.
Of course you can choose to decide that, if you have to work at this relationship on your own, then you just don’t want to do that! However, if you truly want to save your relationship, there is much that you can do on your own that can produce a major difference in the quality of that relationship.
Seeing a counselor on your own, you can:
…… Discover your personal power to make changes in your relationship.
…… Learn some strategies to get your partner to really “hear” you.
…… Understand your own contributions to your relationship struggles.
…… Add to your understanding of your partner’s behavior and viewpoint.
…… Learn how to be a team – cope with family challenges together.
…… Communicate your needs more effectively.
…… Listen and respond more effectively to your partner’s concerns.
See my blog post on Relationship Quicksand.
If you are having difficulty with your relationship, you are feeling overwhelmed or stuck or you are having trouble communicating your feelings to your partner, you may need some help getting past the obstacles to a better relationship. Please contact me if you’d like more information about my services.
“If you have learned how to disagree without being disagreeable,
then you have discovered the secret of getting along
– whether it be business, family relations, or life itself.”
-Bernard Meltzer, law professor and author