“If you don’t believe in yourself, then who will believe in you?……. “The next man’s way of getting there might not necessarily work for me, so I have to create my own ways of getting there.” Michael Korda
Have you been wondering if counseling could really make a difference in your life? A 15 minute phone call might help you make that decision… Sometimes you might just need a little more support, as you figure out what your own way of getting there is!
In spite of my 30+ years of experience, I’ve discovered that I still have more to learn. Recent months have taught me that teletherapy can be just as helpful, and sometimes a lot more convenient than being physically present in my office. Check out my latest thoughts on video counseling. Then let’s talk to see how online counseling might work for you.
Do others see you as successful, even as you struggle to cope with those nagging feelings of insecurity?
Is your world changing around you, as you struggle to keep up?
Have you felt (and acted) more angry lately, and the important folks in your life are concerned about you?
Are you starting to feel more and more alienated from the important people in your life––the ones who could be there for you––just at a time when you yearn for someone who could really understand?
When life’s challenges are overwhelming, it can be hard to see that light at the end of the tunnel and to know that help is even possible.
Signs that your efforts to cope may not be working for you:
- You are easily angered or irritable much of the time.
- Friends and colleagues tell you that you’ve become hard to be around.
- You feel “numb” to your feelings – and can’t figure out why.
- At work, you have trouble focusing.
- Major life changes have hurt your ability to communicate effectively.
- You’ve had a significant personal loss and can’t seem to move on.
- Even the small stuff is getting to you.
- You can’t understand why everyone else is treating you badly.
- You’ve become more isolated – it’s just more comfortable to be alone.
- You have a stressful job and it’s no longer easy for you to cope.
- Your anger spills over to your family.
- A relationship you thought was solid is falling apart.
Or – let me know what I’ve missed!
If you can identify with one or more items in the above list, and the path you’ve taken so far hasn’t been effective, you may want to explore the possibility of getting some help.
If you aren’t sure if we’d be the right fit or if you haven’t yet decided if you want to start or return to therapy, let’s talk (310 475-1759), then you decide…………..
And….. just a little more on men and counseling:
In my experience, men and women tend to grow up speaking different “languages” and have different management strategies when it comes to coping with emotionally-laden situations. Certainly, there are exceptions to this rule.
Some men easily speak the language of feelings and many women haven’t learned to do so. However, in a world in which the popular media suggest that men just don’t do it “right,” you might experience the tremendous burden that comes with the expectation that you need to constantly monitor your words and feelings to avoid making relationship-breaking errors!
Many years of experience have taught me that we all tend to have pretty much the same feelings and concerns about life! The difference I see is that men are taught early on that they need to be careful about the face and the feelings the world gets to see.
If you’ve learned that it isn’t safe or prudent to reveal feelings or if you just don’t even want to think about why you feel the way you do, some of your important personal and professional relationships might be suffering.
Men who are uncomfortable asking for help tend to find my office a safe and reassuring place to take that risk. Together we can develop a toolbox of strategies to help reduce your anger and anxiety. As you develop more effective communication skills, you might find that your personal and professional relationships aren’t as challenging.
I invite you to give me a call at 310 475-1759 — just to get some questions answered, to schedule a complementary phone consultation or to make an appointment. And check out this blog post with some info for men about managing anger.