Not a new thought. Not my original concept. Just something we might all want to keep in mind when we’re tempted to let the offender know just how angry we really, really are!
My first instinct is to tell a personal story of when I remembered to think before reacting – and how well that turned out! And, of course, I’d like to share with you some handy dandy tips – tools you can use the next time you feel that rising anger about to take over.
However, I often wonder how useful these posts are, if you struggle with the twin challenges of managing your anger as well as your communication style. It occurs to me that those magical (to me!) tips I offer may not work for you. Or that you might read and actually plan on using some of these strategies, but it’s just not that simple.
So – the personal experience and more tips are on hold for now. But, I would like to acknowledge that I know how tough it is to change long-standing patterns. It’s especially difficult when you learned as a child that there’s really lots to be angry about!
That doesn’t mean change isn’t possible. But, it does mean that sometimes it takes a while to figure out why you really get so angry and to learn the strategies that will help you communicate more effectively so that you can feel understood and valued.
I’d like to hear from you about what’s worked and what hasn’t, as you struggle to communicate effectively and to manage that intrusive anger.
I invite you to email me to let me know about your experiences. I promise to respond within a week to all emails. And – your contributions will help to guide me as to what to include in future posts.