Men and Counseling


“If you don’t believe in yourself, then who will believe in you?

The next man’s way of getting there might not necessarily work for me,
so I have to create my own ways of getting there.”
Michael Korda


For men seeking some extra help:  Maybe you just need a little more
support, as you figure out what your own way of getting there is!

  • Do others see you as successful, even as you struggle to cope with those
    nagging feelings of insecurity?
  • Is your world changing around you, as you struggle to keep up?
  • Are you starting to feel more and more alienated from the important people
    in your life – the ones who could be there for you – just at a time when you wish
    for someone who could really understand?

When life’s challenges are overwhelming, it can be hard to see that light at the end of the tunnel and to know that help is even possible.

Signs that your efforts to cope may not be working for you:

  • You are easily angered or irritable much of the time.
  • Friends and colleagues tell you that you’ve become hard to be around.
  • You feel “numb” to your feelings – and can’t figure out why.
  • At work, you have trouble focusing.
  • Major life changes have hurt your ability to communicate effectively.
  • You’ve had a significant personal loss and can’t seem to move on.
  • Even the small stuff is getting to you.
  • You can’t understand why everyone else is treating you badly.
  • You’ve become more isolated – it’s just more comfortable to be alone.
  • You have a stressful job and it’s no longer easy for you to cope.
  • Your anger spills over to your family.
  • A relationship you thought was solid is falling apart.

Or – let me know what I’ve missed!

If you can identify with one or more items in the above list, and the path you’ve taken so far hasn’t been effective, you may want to explore the possibility of getting some help.

If you aren’t sure if we’d be the right fit or if you haven’t yet decided if you want to start or return to therapy, let’s talk (310 475-1759), then you decide…………..


And….. just a little more on men and counseling:

In my experience, men and women tend to grow up speaking different “languages” and have different management strategies when it comes to coping with emotionally-laden situations. Certainly, there are exceptions to this rule.

Some men easily speak the language of feelings and many women haven’t learned to do so. However, in a world in which the popular media suggest that men just don’t do it “right,” many men experience the tremendous burden that comes with the expectation that they need to constantly monitor their words and feelings to avoid making relationship-breaking errors!

In addition, there has been significant research that supports what I have known all along – we all tend to have pretty much the same feelings and concerns about life! The difference we see is that men are taught early on that they need to be careful about the face the world gets to see.

If you’ve learned that it isn’t safe or prudent to reveal feelings or if you just don’t even want to think about why you feel the way you do, some of your important personal and professional relationships might be suffering.

Men who are uncomfortable asking for help tend to find my office a safe and reassuring place to take that risk. I help people develop a toolbox of strategies to help reduce anger and anxiety in order to develop more effective communication skills and, in the process, better personal and professional relationships.

I encourage you to give me a call at 310 475-1759 – just to get some questions answered, to schedule a complementary phone consultation or to make an appointment.