Sometimes the advice those in recovery think they hear is what not to do! All those don’ts: Don’t hang out with the same old crowd. Don’t go to the same old places. Don’t let your family talk you back … Keep reading…..
Learn how to get in front of those impulses that cause conflict and stress! Oops! It happened again. David meant to express empathy and concern to his father, who was upset about a business problem. Instead, he blurted out, “Well, … Keep reading…..
Commitment: “A promise to do or give something; a promise to be loyal to someone or something; the attitude of someone who works very hard to do or support something.” (Merriam-Webster Dictionary) And most, if not all, commitments involve some … Keep reading…..
Complaint or Useful Information?
Has someone been complaining about your child? Maybe it’s the neighbor who thinks there’s way too much noise in your home. Or the teacher who has let you know there are challenges at school and that your child needs to do the homework, be less talkative, comply with school rules, etc. Or perhaps it’s a complete stranger in the market, telling you to discipline your child!
Have some family members let you know that they have complaints about how you are raising your child? Complaints they feel the need to communicate to you loudly and frequently? With the implication that you can’t possibly be a good parent, since you obviously don’t know the “right” way to raise your child?
It can be tough being a parent. You do the very best you can, and you certainly don’t expect that others may think that your best efforts just aren’t enough. Keep reading…..
Over the years, I’ve had many clients who have difficulty asking for what they need. And our work around that involves more than just finding an understanding of why that happens. Insight is nice – but tends not to quite be … Keep reading…..
“Jeff” stormed into my office, clearly infuriated with one of his college professors. And it was equally clear that he wanted me to tell him he was right! To tell him that he had good reason for telling that professor … Keep reading…..
Observed in a local store: Teen age boy with skateboard, shopping by riding that board up and down aisles. Store manager informs him that riding in the store is not permitted. Angry boy – ready to argue vehemently – steps off the … Keep reading…..
Before offering advice, ask if it’s really wanted! … Keep reading…..
A little while ago, I posted some tips on carrying out New Year’s resolutions. (See post below this one.) Then I re-read what I wrote and realized that it isn’t obvious how this topic fits in with my overall theme … Keep reading…..
Today turned out to be so much better than I’d expected. Tired, way too busy, and not feeling very social, I almost passed on being part of a magnificent experience! But, I’d made a commitment and couldn’t think of a … Keep reading…..