STRESS at WORK: Eleven tips for surviving and thriving.

Stress happens! To all of us. At home, at work, with friends, and with family. The many published articles, books, and research reports that discuss the causes of and fixes for workplace stress could probably fill a very large library– … Keep reading…..

COMPLAINING OR USEFUL FEEDBACK? Point of view can make a difference…

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Complaint or Useful Information?


Has someone been complaining about your child?
Maybe it’s the neighbor who thinks there’s way too much noise in your home. Or the teacher who has let you know there are challenges at school and that your child needs to do the homework, be less talkative, comply with school rules, etc. Or perhaps it’s a complete stranger in the market, telling you to discipline your child!


Have some family members let you know that they have complaints about how you are raising your child? Complaints they feel the need to communicate to you loudly and frequently? With the implication that you can’t possibly be a good parent, since you obviously don’t know the “right” way to raise your child?

It can be tough being a parent. You do the very best you can, and you certainly don’t expect that others may think that your best efforts just aren’t enough.  Keep reading…..

BODY LANGUAGE: MORE POWERFUL THAN SOME WORDS! It’s often what you do, the gestures you use, that can make all the difference!

“Jeff” stormed into my office, clearly infuriated with one of his college professors. And it was equally clear that he wanted me to tell him he was right! To tell him that he had good reason for telling that professor … Keep reading…..

DO YOU REALLY DISAGREE? Family history, life experiences, & mood can influence how we understand and react to what we hear.

“Interesting. I’ll really need to think about that a little more.”  You’ve made a suggestion to your boss, and this was her response. So what do you think? Does she really find your idea interesting? Is this a polite way of letting … Keep reading…..

IT’S NICE TO KNOW OTHERS ARE CONCERNED ABOUT YOU! But, too much concern might make you want to fight or flee!

Someone in your life is concerned about your well-being. For the umpteenth time, that person has inquired about your well-being. At this point, what you’d really like to do is just say “STOP!” And you might just start feeling like … Keep reading…..

FOR MORE EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION…LISTEN MORE THAN YOU TALK! YOUR TURN WILL COME: Many arguments happen when two people talk and neither really hears the other.

Have you ever listened to two or more people doing what I call “parallel arguing?” Each person is so invested in making that all-important point, that no one hears anyone else! I’ve been spending way too much time lately listening … Keep reading…..

FAMILY COMMUNICATION CHALLENGES: Visiting with your family? Try a different approach!

Recently, I’ve been reflecting on family connections – mine and others. Some families really seem to get along well, have a collective sense of humor and mutual understanding, resolve differences eventually, and stay connected across miles and generations. Those are … Keep reading…..

HABITS I’VE DISCOVERED I REALLY DON’T NEED! AND – THOSE I WISH I HAD! How new habits can work to reduce your stress and anger.

HABIT: an acquired mode of behavior that has become nearly or completely involuntary (http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/habit)   When I started this blog, my plan was to write at least two posts each week! Well – a quick glance at my posts will … Keep reading…..

Tips For Handling Those Moments When Passion is About to Overcome Reason – and your words are about to change everything!

If only those folks who are so irritating knew how you really feel! How angry, frustrated, upset you get when they just haven’t gotten the point! If only they knew and would change their attitudes so that you could get … Keep reading…..